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Film review

How to Have Sex

2023 · Directed by Molly Manning Walker · 1h 31m · MPA NR

In a sentenceA holiday where everyone keeps asking whether you got with anyone and nobody asks how it went

Tara (Mia McKenna-Bruce), Skye (Lara Peake) and Em (Enva Lewis) are sixteen, have just sat their GCSEs, and have flown to Malia, on Crete, for a week they intend to remember. The plan is drink, clubs, boys, and for Tara, who is the only one of the three who has not had sex, something more specific. They talk their way into a room by the pool and fall in with the group on the next balcony: Badger (Shaun Thomas), who is loud and friendly, Paddy (Samuel Bottomley), who is quieter, and Paige (Laura Ambler). Molly Manning Walker’s first film as writer and director follows the holiday night by night, through the strip, the hotel and the mornings after, as the fun begins to cost something.

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Molly Manning Walker’s first film follows three sixteen-year-olds to Malia and gets the noise right before it gets the silence right. Mia McKenna-Bruce is remarkable. The boys are drawn thinner than the girls, and the ending arrives in a hurry.

Tara (Mia McKenna-Bruce), Skye (Lara Peake) and Em (Enva Lewis) have finished their GCSEs and landed in Malia, on Crete, with a plan. It is the best holiday of their lives, they tell each other at the airport, and they are going to make sure of it. Tara, the small loud one, has a second plan she is less loud about: she is the only one of the three who has not had sex, and she means to fix that before the flight home. Molly Manning Walker wrote and directed the film, her first, and it is good. We recommend it, with a caveat about the boys and the last ten minutes.

The first half hour is noise, and the noise is right. Nicolas Canniccioni shoots the strip at night in pinks and greens with the camera at shoulder height and close, so the crowd is a wall of arms and the girls have to shout to be heard by each other and by us. Luke Moran-Morris gives them a hotel room that is mostly floor and bed, the sort of room three people can wreck in an evening, and they do. George Buxton dresses them in new going-out clothes, the sort saved for a trip like this and not yet worn. We were tired within twenty minutes, in the way one is tired at a party, and we think that was the idea.

On the next balcony are three older kids: Badger (Shaun Thomas), who is loud and kind and the first to shout across, Paddy (Samuel Bottomley), who is quieter and better-looking and knows it, and Paige (Laura Ambler), who mostly watches. Badger likes Tara straight away and is easy with her. Skye, who has noticed this, steers Tara at Paddy instead. Em, the sensible one, sees all of it and says less than she should.

Then, a little past the midpoint, there is a night we will not describe, and the film changes. It does not change the way most films do. The music does not stop, the parties carry on, Skye and Em are as loud as before. What changes is that Canniccioni’s camera stays on Tara while the frame around her keeps moving, and McKenna-Bruce lets the bravado leave her face a piece at a time. We watched the second half with our stomach tight, and what did it was not anything shown. It was a girl walking through a pool party in daylight, asked the same question by everyone she passed, answering it with a face that had stopped matching her voice.

McKenna-Bruce is doing the whole film. She is quick and funny in the early scenes, and she never plays the later ones for sympathy; Tara keeps trying to be the person the holiday wants her to be, and the effort is what hurts. Fin Oates cuts the party scenes in short pieces and the mornings in long ones, so the hangovers feel like the true length of the trip. James Jacob’s score is barely there. Most of what you hear is the strip, the pool speakers and the room next door, and the film is quieter than any of them.

The flaws are in the writing around her. Paddy is a type, the good-looking boy who does not ask, and Bottomley plays him well enough, but Manning Walker gives him no interior to find. Skye is drawn with a thicker line than she needs; every time the film wants pressure on Tara, Skye says something cruel, and the mechanism shows. The last ten minutes arrive in a hurry, as if the film had spent its patience on the middle and had none left for the end. Most critics have let this pass, and we nearly did.

It starts like The Inbetweeners on their holiday and ends nowhere near it, and the trick is that the two halves are shot the same way. Nobody sits down and explains anything. That is the right decision, and rarer than it sounds.

It is a 15, and 91 minutes. If you have a daughter about to go on one of these, watch it first. Then decide whether the conversation is one you have before she goes or after she gets back.

Critical consensus AI synthesised

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The reviews are unusually united. Nearly every critic praises Mia McKenna-Bruce’s lead performance as Tara, describing it as raw and revelatory, and most credit writer-director Molly Manning Walker with handling the grey areas of consent without turning the film into either a lecture or a cautionary tale. Critics also single out the tonal shift, from the noise and colour of a post-GCSE holiday in Crete to something quieter and more troubling, and several admire the camerawork for catching the sticky, sensory feel of the nights out.

Reservations are minor and cluster around the supporting characters: Little White Lies and The Hollywood Reporter both find some of them broadly drawn or thinly motivated, and IndieWire calls them obvious. The Playlist thinks the ending is rushed. The nearest thing to a dissent is Paste, which finds the story competent but predictable and carried mainly by the acting. The spread is narrow, running from firm approval to something close to acclaim.

The AV Club
1 February 2024 · A · Murtada Elfadl
95

The critic praises the gritty, realistic take on teenage sex and consent as a spellbinding antithesis to typical teen comedies. He singles out Mia McKenna-Bruce’s anchoring performance and the director’s trust in gray areas and lived-in performances.

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Empire
30 October 2023 · Sophie Butcher
85*

The film immerses viewers in the sensory overload of a teenage holiday while exploring the complexities of consent, female friendship, and vulnerability through strong performances, especially Mia McKenna-Bruce as Tara. It handles tough topics starkly and affectingly without exploitation, delivering an enthralling and important debut.

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Slant Magazine
18 January 2024 · Clayton Dillard
85*

The critic calls the film a remarkable, humanist knotty study of consent that leaves emotions unresolved and relationships messy. He singles out its masterstroke in handling ambiguity around a key sexual encounter and its instructive take on sexual politics.

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Little White Lies
1 November 2023 · 3/4/3 · Hannah Strong
80

The critic finds the film an assured debut that captures the rite-of-passage holiday with visual flair and sharp insight into teenage sexual politics and friendship tensions. Mia McKenna-Bruce stands out in a lead role that mixes bravado and vulnerability, though some characterisations feel broadly drawn.

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Radio Times
3 November 2023 · ★★★★ · James Mottram
80

The critic praises the sensitively handled exploration of sexual consent in a debauched holiday setting, driven by a raw and star-making performance from Mia McKenna-Bruce. Manning Walker's debut impressively gets inside the protagonist's head amid the hedonistic atmosphere.

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Screen Daily
19 May 2023 · festival review
80*

The review highlights the terrific debut's shift from riotous holiday energy to discomfort, with witty, empathetic storytelling and a visually arresting style that tunes into hidden anxieties. A star-making turn from Mia McKenna-Bruce and strong ensemble work are singled out for praise.

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Straight answers AI written, from our review

Is How to Have Sex worth watching?
How to Have Sex is worth watching, and we scored it 84. Molly Manning Walker's first film follows three sixteen-year-olds on a post-GCSE week in Malia, and Mia McKenna-Bruce's performance as Tara carries it from noisy fun into something quieter and harder. The boys are written thinner than the girls and the last ten minutes feel rushed, but it suits anyone who has been on such a trip, or has a daughter about to go.
How long is How to Have Sex, and what is it rated?
How to Have Sex runs 1h 31m and is rated NR by the MPA in the US. It is a drama film.
Where can I watch How to Have Sex in the US?
How to Have Sex is streaming on MUBI, Netflix and Apple TV in the US, and it is also available to rent from Apple TV from $5.99. Availability is checked daily; the links above go straight to each service.
How violent or frightening is How to Have Sex, and is it suitable for children?
How to Have Sex is a 15 in the UK and is not for children, though it is not violent or frightening in the usual sense. It is a drama about sixteen-year-olds drinking, clubbing and pursuing sex on holiday, and a little past the midpoint there is a night the film does not show but which changes everything after it. Older teenagers could watch it; parents may want to see it first.
How does How to Have Sex compare to Fish Tank?
How to Have Sex and Fish Tank both watch a teenage girl closely and decline to judge her, but they differ in temper. Andrea Arnold's film is the tenser and more dangerous of the two, carried by Katie Jarvis and her fraught encounters with Michael Fassbender; Molly Manning Walker's begins as a loud holiday and turns quiet. Choose Fish Tank for grit, How to Have Sex if the Malia strip is nearer home.
What should I watch after How to Have Sex?
After How to Have Sex, try Fish Tank (2009, Fi1m 85): Andrea Arnold’s Essex teenager, watched as closely and judged as little as Tara is. Then Aftersun (2022, Fi1m 85): Another British holiday abroad, remembered later, where the sunshine hides what nobody said; and Never Rarely Sometimes Always (2020, Fi1m 84): Two teenage cousins, one long trip, and a lead who says almost everything with her face.

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Awards

European Film Award for European Discovery of the Year, 2023

Won
European Film Award for European Discovery of the Year

Un certain regard Award, 2023

Won
Un certain regard Award

If you liked this, try…

  1. Fish Tank (2009, Fi1m 85)Andrea Arnold’s Essex teenager, watched as closely and judged as little as Tara is.

  2. Girlhood (2014) · not reviewed yetFour Paris girls, a hotel room and a pop song; friendship as armour and as pressure.

  3. Aftersun (2022, Fi1m 85)Another British holiday abroad, remembered later, where the sunshine hides what nobody said.

  4. Spring Breakers (2012) · not reviewed yetThe American version of the same week, shot as a neon fever and meant to disturb.

  5. Never Rarely Sometimes Always (2020, Fi1m 84)Two teenage cousins, one long trip, and a lead who says almost everything with her face.

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